Divorce and Reflecting On My Growth

Today I’m sitting on the beach in Oahu watching the sunset. It’s been nearly 30 years since I last visited the island as a newlywed. It was one of our honeymoon destinations. Yet today I’m reflecting on the journey that brought me here. I’m amazed at the twists and turns of life.

When I got married in Maui I was young, happy and hopeful. I had no clue that life would shift again and again until I realized that to be at peace I would have to walk away from my marriage. I didn’t get the happily ever after like in the movies. Happiness is a place you create within yourself.

Getting married in my twenties seemed like the perfect thing to do. I met him when I was twenty-four but I didn’t even know who I was. Nor who I had the capability of becoming. Although I regret the breakdown of my marriage I’m incredibly grateful and proud of the fact that I know who I am. That didn’t come so easily.

Since my divorce I have been on this journey of self discovery and travel has been a major part of that. I get the opportunity to unplug from my hectic world to see the world. I have challenged myself to grow beyond my comfort zone. The beauty of nature and adventure brings me joy. Even if it includes mud and dirt.

My friend who is very much like a sister is working on Oahu. So when she invited me to come hangout I jumped at the chance. That was provided that I could find a reasonably priced flight. Somehow I always discover something within my budget. The time coincided with my kids being out of the country.

This trip back to Oahu has given me the time to ponder on the ways in which I have grown since my last trip. Each visit was the start of something new. What will it be? I can appreciate this stage in my life. I’m whole, happy and proud.

Regina H.